The Women’s March #theydontspeakforme

I’ve gone back and forth…to say something or not to say something? My intention is not to create more debate or more animosity. That’s the last thing I want. I sit here writing, cringing a bit, because I know I’ll hear from some people who disagree, but I write because of all the teenage girls I’ve worked with over the years. I know that many adults already have their opinions set in stone, and it would be difficult to change the mind of one who has already determined what they will believe on many of these issues…but, for all of the teenage girls I know who are watching marches like the Women’s March on Washington and hearing the many opinions swirling out there, I MUST speak out.

You need to hear from someone other than the women who walked in that march on Saturday. Their voices are loud, and I’m convicted that their voices might be overshadowing the voices of all the other women who disagree. Those of us who adhere to the hashtag #theydontspeakforme

As I watched the march on Saturday, I shuttered and thought over and over again, “Why are they marching in the name of women? They don’t represent me in any way.” They should have marched in the name of liberal ideology.

I am always offended when people equate the rights of women or race with issues that do not align with God’s creation of humanity (true human birth rights). Please stop making the right to “choose” synonymous with women’s rights. Please stop equating LGTBQ rights with racial rights.

I remember hearing Tony Evans, an African-American preacher I admire greatly, talk about the offense it was to him for others to equate the civil rights movement with the rights of sexual orientation. In an interview, Evans was asked about the argument that same-sex marriage is a civil rights issue like race, but he wasn’t having it. “The issue of race is not an issue of choice. It’s an issue of birth,” he said. I agree, and this is my same argument. Do not begin equating sexual orientation and abortion with women’s rights.

As I watched Kiera Johnson walk up to the stage wearing a shirt plastered with the word “abortion” & hearts, I was horrified. The crowd cheered while she said, “I am unapologetically abortion positive,” I felt physically sick. For all of you teen girls, this is not what it means to be a strong woman.

My wise friend said, “That shirt might as well be plastered with the word ‘murder’.” I couldn’t agree more. How can this be the image that we praise? How can we as women cheer this on?

As I saw this image being praised, I could not help but imagine the thrill of the Enemy. The way he has skewed the minds of our culture is hard to believe.

I listened to a video of a college girl this morning who explained why she marched. In it she said, “I am pro-choice. I think that women have the free will to do whatever they want to with their body.” Just imagine if a man said this…feminists would be outraged. We don’t have the right to do whatever we want to with our bodies. We have a responsibility.

With our bodies comes a responsibility. The choice we have occurs prior to conception. (As an aside, I am not someone so staunch in my beliefs that I do not understand the argument for medical abortion in the cases of rape or other medical complications. Although, I am never for abortion, I do understand these arguments. With that being said, those cases are around 0.4 to 3% of the reasons given for having an abortion.)

When did we begin believing that we can just abort the very real consequences that come from our decisions?

All of you teenage/college girls (or guys) who are confused on this issue, please don’t believe that a pro-choice viewpoint is the most enlightened way to think. This is how our culture portrays pro-choice vs. pro-life — the enlightened vs. the unenlightened. This should not catch us by surprise though:

1 Corinthians 3:18-20: Do not deceive yourselves. If any of you think you are wise by the standards of this age, you should become “fools” so that you may become wise. For the wisdom of this world is foolishness in God’s sight. As it is written: “He catches the wise in their craftiness” and again, “The Lord knows that the thoughts of the wise are futile.

As I watched the Women’s March which esteemed speakers who were pro-abortion & activists for the LGBTQ community, I couldn’t help but think, at the root of both of these issues, what these two groups are saying is: “GOD MADE A MISTAKE.”

With abortion…God made a mistake by creating this child in my womb.

With the transgender issue…God made a mistake by creating me as male (or female).

How can we stand by as our culture esteems those who so blatantly hold views contrary to God’s Truth?

Girls, please know that believing & aligning your life with the Truth of the Bible will not be popular in our culture, but living His way is best for you. Do not buy into the lies of the Enemy (Satan, the Deceiver, the Father of Lies) and begin to believe all the messages you will hear from those confused and blinded by the “wisdom of this world.”

Know His Truth. Align your life with His Word. Understand that it will not be popular. You will get push-back, but living a life in line with God’s Word is best for you.

18 Replies to “The Women’s March #theydontspeakforme”

    1. I hear you. And I understand your position. The difference is that I would not try and convince any woman that I know what is right for her.

      I especially am grateful that for ninety three years women marched so that I could vote.

      I am thankful that women across the globe walked in solidarity for family planning and education, equal pay for equal work, for the right to own property and for the right to say what is to happen with ones body.

      I get it that you are issue driven and I am inclusive. It doesn’t make either of us bad or wrong. I would not want you to have less than because we disagree. Until men are held equally accountable for their actions (and check out Oklahoma and their rape laws) I will continue to support s woman’s right to choose.

      In all nations on this good, green earth, the business of bearing and raising children falls ultimately on women. It is the hardest and best work. It is difficult to fathom how quickly the crowd disappears as the marathon that is child rearing moves from the glowing sprint of dating and young love to the trenches of middle school and the terrible/terrific teen years. I call them the T3. That time when society begins to have adult expectations but allows very little autonomy.

      Not to worry, though. If we come out of this time of the tyrants with any semblance of America remaining it will be a smaller, braver, wilder version of who we are now. We handed ourselves over to corporations long ago (they are the robots of our science fiction horror stories). Non-entities with rights and subsidies that don’t need clean air or water. We serve up our children and our grandchildren’s health for corporate bottom line.

      The very best outcome of the march? Millions of women in America and around the world rising. Not complacently accepting the status quo. For every woman who finds the current administration an answered prayer, there is one who is horrified and triggered (a survivor or sexual assault). There is where the conversation starts. There is no ‘right answer’. Let’s talk.

  1. I am so proud of your boldness.You have spoken in love and not hatred like so many of those that spewed forth on Saturday .You can tell you were “trained up in the way you should grow.”

    1. Hey girl! Christy’s thoughts are very different than my own. I read this article, and agree & disagree with some of the points. I think it’s EXTREMELY important to be in conversations with those who live very different lives than my own, and I work hard to do that often. Thank you for sharing this, because I do think it’s a good read and it’s important to understand where others are coming from!

      1. It isn’t important for you to talk to people from other walks of life. It’s important for you to love and empathize with them. I don’t think Jesus issued a blog post after speaking with the woman at the well, just to make sure everyone knew he didn’t share that lifestyle. He fought for her to be treated like everyone else. I don’t think you should be lauded for merely acknowledging that there are people who don’t have the same privileges as you.

        1. Thanks, Erin. I do more than talk with them. I promise. I work in ministry and give my life to girls and women who are oppressed. I’m thankful you seem to do the same.

    2. Seriously? I was one of those women because I chose to have a child instead of continue my education, not because I was forced by the big, bad men to do so. I took welfare and food stamps and WIC. I lived less than paycheck to paycheck so I know what it’s like to be on the other side. I also chose to go back to school and get my nursing degree and am now an RN who brings in a very good check each month. None of this was ever about being oppressed by men or being told I had to because I was a woman. We all have a choice and I mean ALL. I’m so tired of these arguments that don’t make sense and are made by a bunch of whining liberals. Yes, I’m grateful to those who, in the past, helped us gain rights, but I don’t need you to help KEEP the laws that already allow abortion. You don’t represent me, either. Thank you very much

  2. Beautifully written, Trish! Glad you stepped out in obedience to write what God had placed on your heart! Love you and I stand with you!

  3. Thank you, Tricia. You eloquently expressed a Christ-like viewpoint. Our society, as well as those of other nations, needs to hear the love of Jesus and the value He gives to all.

  4. How can you call yourself a Christian. When you are so quick to throw your own stones.
    John 8:7New International Version (NIV)

    7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”
    Having empathy is Christian. Condeming others for their choices is rather against Christ’s example.

  5. I agree with you that many adults form political and moral opinions and then are unwilling to change their minds. However, I would like to point out that my views about abortion have dramatically changed as I have aged.

    I went to Catholic school and am Christian. When I was a virgin and teenager, I thought abortion was avoidable and only a last resort in the most dire of circumstances. I also never anticipated that I wouldn’t meet my husband by 18, 19, or 20.

    Today, as a single, twenty-eight-year-old female, I now realize how important reproductive rights are to me and every other woman at every stage of life. We don’t all find our husband by 21, and we dont all wait until marriage to have sex. Many life events–especially falling in love–are out of our control. The one decision that should be within our control is what is happening within our own bodies. Women who don’t meet the man of their dreams at exactly the right time should not be forced to bring a child into this world. Sometimes you can’t wait until marriage to have sex; sometimes birth control fails; sometimes a guy you think is sweet turns out to be an irresponsible jerk; sometimes you are in the middle of making a life altering personal or professional decision and a baby would disrupt that; sometimes you don’t have a supportive family to fall back on; sometimes you can’t take time off of work to have an under the radar adoption.

    Abortion is not a sin. It is a reality that fits within the 21st Century and allows women to live a fulfilled, god-given life–a life in which we, as women, can decide when to bear children that are immensely loved and entirely provided for. Asking a women to do anything less than than is not Christ-like or the Word, much less constitutional.

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